First things first, there’s a difference between happiness and fulfillment. Fulfillment is a state of satisfaction that comes from pursuing one’s purpose of existence. It comes from deep, everlasting passion for a profession or occupation. Something that fills the ever-constant void that plagues our existence as humans.
Happiness, on the other hand, is a chemical high. An emotion that is short-lived and can be easily broken by the slightest annoyance or provocation.
Happiness is not permanent and neither is fulfillment. Here’s the catch though, fulfillment lasts as long as we do; meaning, we can be fulfilled until our dying day meanwhile happiness comes and goes throughout our lives.
Here’s the thing, happiness is a fleeting emotion much like lust and love. Trust me, research has been done on love and it has been reduced to a biological release of chemicals in the brain like oxytocin, dopamine, etc. For more info, I recommend watching Leo Gura’s “What is Love?” video on youtube, where he gives a deep, spiritual and philosophical analysis on the subject.
Fulfillment, on the other hand, is tied to your purpose for existing. It is tied to the profession or occupation or hobby that fills the void in your life that causes neediness and depression. It is tied to your well-being and the essence of your soul (if you believe in souls).
The thing about fulfillment is that it lies deep within you, it helps you through all the tough times, the grind, the trenches, the struggles, the drought, whatever you want to call it. It is that ever burning fire that blazes steadily. When most people would give up, you go on because what you’re doing is being done because you enjoy it. It isn’t for money, fame, status, or anything of a superficial nature. It is for you and for those you want to give value to, fulfillment comes from the true sense of serving and egalitarianism. it comes from that feeling of leaving your mark, of letting the world know you were here and you did something.
Fulfillment is the deepest form of satisfaction that isn’t dependent on emotion. It is ever-present through good and bad times. It is not fleeting, it will not abandon you, it will not leave you high and dry, it will not disappoint you. Fulfillment may not illicit such positive emotions but it will give you the power to walk away from situations that no longer serve you because you know you are complete in all that you do for yourself and the world. It is the thing that grounds you, it is your anchor to reality no matter how harsh and cruel it may seem. Fulfillment is what keeps you from falling into the abyss of purposelessness and nihilism (nothing is wrong with nihilism).
The thing is, most people conflate happiness and fulfillment but don’t realize what they truly want is fulfillment. Understand happiness is an emotion, fulfillment is the deep satisfaction of knowing you found your purpose and are now complete.
How is this practical to your life? How can this help you?
Well, I guess it depends on what you think your purpose is. It can be anything. It doesn’t have to be world-changing or godly. It just has to be yours, and that’s all that matters on the subject.
Alright, that’s my spiel. Til next week. . .